“You don’t have to light yourself on fire to keep others warm.” — Unknown In both my personal life and my work with clients, one pattern keeps showing up: the tendency to take responsibility for burdens that never belonged to us. It can look like: absorbing emotional consequences for others preventing them from experiencing natural outcomes of their choices carrying anxiety for their feelings, decisions, or failures paying bills, doing work, solving problems, or managing emotions they refuse...

There’s something most humans tend to avoid at all costs: conflict . For many of us, it feels like one of the worst things that could...

In my work with couples facing relationship challenges, one of the most meaningful roles I play is that of a catalyst—someone who helps...